I’m really struggling to get to grips with this one. I’ve always thought I’d meet someone, we’d click, fall in love, he’d propose and we’d get married. Sadly, this hasn’t happened. Everything after the first bit – meeting someone – hasn’t happened. Actually to be fair, I’ve clicked with a couple of people, but it’s not progressed beyond that. So I can’t say I’ve ever been in love, and at the age of 26 turning 27, that’s a teeny bit depressing. Especially given the fact, my mum expects me to go from single to married asap. Ah the logic of Indian culture:
From primary school, throughout university it’s always been: steer clear of boys. And now that I’m done with studying and working full time it’s: when are you getting married?
Hmm, not quite sure this works. Well I understand it from a cultural point of view, marriage is what’s expected. And culturally, marriage is considered from a practical point of view, for example are you compatible with someone in terms of age, education, family etc. What everyone fails to mention are the cornerstones of attraction, chemistry etc, all the stuff that doesn’t fit neatly into a marriage CV, or your ‘biodata’. Maybe it’s because the older Indian generation didn’t grow up with Disney that they fail to see where I’m coming from with this.
But what I’m really unsure about is whether it’s possible for love to grow.
Can you marry someone without being in love, in the hope that love will come with time?
If you do, is that romantic love or companionship?
Is it possible to experience romantic love without attraction?
My mind boggles with all of the above. But as I’m getting older, or too ‘old’ in the eyes of some Indian aunties, I’m questioning whether sparks exist. Maybe I’m becoming pessimistic with age.